A: My boundaries are set, I expect them to be respected as I will yours and they are not flexible. With power dynamics, I take it seriously if you are trusting me with that power, I will not abuse it, and likewise if you are requesting for me to relinquish my power to you, I expect it not be abused either. While I can be a piece of meat to you, I’m a piece of meat who wont put up with behaviour that hasn’t been discussed or consented to. Zero tolerance for this.
A: Creating play lists on Spotify and pretending I’m a sick DJ, the gym is my number one hobbie/lifestyle, hitting the beach, quality time with quality people and vibing and connecting with new interesting people.
A: I’m pretty basic. Gym, food, sex, weed, beach and friends. Sometimes. I like to spend time alone more often than not. I’m not very social but as per my therapist, am trying to get out there and be social. It’s not easy being neurodivergent and having to constantly defend and explain myself to neurotypical people when THEY can learn about ME so I don’t have to keep apologising for my brain being wired differently. So FYI I have ADHD and some ASD traits so keep that in mind before making assumptions based on my behaviour, reactions or things I may say. Be a grown up and if you need clarification, just ask me, I wont get offended. I’d rather you be straight up if you have a problem, so I can explain it or if I’m unaware of it, I can adjust myself accordingly. HONESTY and being UPRONT please.
A: Through education and specific therapy, I have learnt how early childhood trauma has shaped who I am to this day. This has given my great insight not only in myself, but others who are walking around, thinking they are horrible people unaware that they too are products of their trauma. This gives me the ability to be understanding and non judgmental as everyone has a story, everyone has damage, it’s your behaviour that if problematic, is something to talk about.
A: If by travel you mean ✈️ over seas, I’d like to get out more. If domestic, I do like to get around. If metropolitan Melbourne, Ubers and Didi’s.
A: I’m a social work student so I have a strong sense of social justice and speaking truth to power. Understanding how our society is structured and the few that benefit from that while the rest of us are exploited, makes me compassionate and understanding to individuals unique backgrounds and social statuses.
A: Practice critical reflection. Daily. It’s a crucial part of learning from your mistakes/struggles and being better.
A: I’m not a cheerleader waving my Pom Poms for attention. I am authentic in this role as i am out of it. I don’t like to be a show pony, I believe you can be loud and shout all you like but it’s actions that speak. How many times have you had a Grindr chat that was all talk and when it came down to it, couldn’t walk the walk. That’s not me.
Also if you wanted a boyfriend experience someone to vibe with in your chosen context (provided I agree to this context) then that is something I would really enjoy doing. If you want me to spend the night cuddling and feeling companionship that too is something I’d be happy to do. Happy to offer 30 mins video chats if you just feeling like someone to talk to, be heard or validated. On the other hand, if you just want to get down to business, I’m dtf.
A: Learning I had borderline personality disorder and getting on top of that shit and getting treatment for it. It has made me learn a lot about myself and what others are inevitably going through. I don’t see monsters or bad people, I see people with a complicated combination of biological, psychological and social factors that have shaped who they are. Often these factors are from early trauma, so I am very empathetic towards people others may deem ‘troubled’ or ‘damaged’. Try calling me that to my face and see what my response is.
A: I’m pretty boring. If I’m not at the gym, then I’m at the beach, or having my own sex (My libido is 24/7 on heat) studying, reading, and as per my therapists advice - trying to make new social connections. That’s a work in progress. Not much of a drinker but I love me some 420 😉. Some 420 by the beach with some lunch on a sunny day in my Speedo’s is the perfect day for me. Throw some sex in there and I’m a happy camper.
A: Honesty is one of my core values. Respect. My judgment of people is not based on here-say from others, or looks but how you speak to me and treat me. So don’t be a dick.
I have been through my own battles in life and have a lot of empathy for people and their struggles, and I like treating those who find it hard to experience what they want, and watching their mind blow when they do.
A: I’d tell you that whilst the ocean shore is a place of peace for me, one of my phobias is in deep ocean water and what lurks beneath. Having said that, that shrub over there looks like we can hide behind it, lets go at it.
A: Bro split 6 days per week, cardio 30/40 minutes per day. Rain, hail or shine.
A: I don’t like bragging until I can show receipts. I’ve got all the basics covered and I am quite good at them. With me you have an opportunity to experience not just sexual pleasure, but companionship. I know how much a real, albeit brief connection, can make a big difference to someone. This can mean, talking, vibing, listening even cuddling if that’s your jam. Think of me as an me as an FWB you can rely on for good sex and comfort if that is something you need. You set the tone. I can show care or I can switch it off and just get down to business. Your call.
A: Food, gym, sex, weed, men
A: I am constantly growing and developing as a person, this includes sexually. Recently I have had to find my true authentic self and I’ve done this through sexual experiences. I see sex as a form of communication or language and one that differs with each person, and one I speak fluently.