Looking for s who enjoy BDSM and bondage

I'm an advanced player into BDSM who has been too often disappointed by Tops who think to know what BDSM is about, while the best they can bring is a ridiculous far too theatrical roleplay. BDSM is far more than pain or verbal humiliation. Ig requires particular skills and a good understanding of the Bottom.

Sexual intercourse can be a part of it but not the goal nor the be-all end-all! It needs sincerity, trustworthiness, some gear and the capacity to use it at purpose. If you never play hard in daily life with your partners and fuckbuddies, in best case you might be a Dominant Top and and/or excellent Rough Fucker. What turns me on in BDSM are Respectful and Challenging Power Exchanges between two versa males who care about each other, protect each other and also know how and when to comfort each other to show the gift was well received. BDSM is for as far as I am concerned, not about humiliation but first of all about trust and complicity. Pain is not the goal but the tool to reach your goal. The goal is to grow strong and and proud that why pain is rather a way to challenge the bottom and not a way to break his will. I enjoy both positions Top and Bottom, but my needs as a top are well satisfied. Therefor when I’m looking for an I will rather be looking for a Master for pay as for a jock with bedroom eyes, a big dick and a ripped body. This being said if one you is able to combine both good looks and Mastery I won't complain!