Dominant Men vs Physical Dominance
I recently did an interview for a Pride Radio, an internet radio station. Unfortunately, I only got to bang Clara the interviewer twice afterward (check my Twitter for pics soon @milesprevitirexxx). But anyway, it was totally worth it and that's not what this blog is about. I'm merely blogging today to share part of the interview with you. Reason is, I've been asked asked similar questions to these on a regular basis - posed from interested (but skeptical) parties online who are hesitant to hire me becuase of the nature of my ads. I thought those of you who fit into this group might be interested in some of what I had to say for myself. Anyway, enough with the disclaimer, here it is:
CLARA (interviewer): What is the most common misconception people have about you?
MILES: The most common misconception people have about me is that I'm a mean guy. More specifically, people commonly mistake me for a BDSM or leather daddy-type. In those scenes, physical dominance is very prevalent. What with the riding crops and paddles and other gay shit like that.
CLARA: That's not you at all.
MILES: Uhmmmm....no, no, no, no, no. The only props I carry are a set of handcuffs, a badge, a police tool belt stacked with flashlights and keys, a police radio, and lately, a catcher's mitt.
CLARA: Not at the same time. For baseball Miles.
MILES: For baseball, yes.
CLARA: Any other guises?
MILES: Oh yeah. Policeman is my trademark. I have experience in the field. I love it from this side of the law. I get blowjobs for every booking.
CLARA: (laughing) What else? What other uniforms do you keep. I was at your original photo shoot with Bobby Drake and your photographers from BadPuppy. Great shoot...your uniforms or ours?
MILES: No I went ahead and brought my own. Everything's fitted. Why invite complications?
CLARA: You looked amazing.
CLARA: No, really though, you were genuine in every role.
MILES: It's the uniforms. Not me.
MILES: I'm serious. Every last stitch and prop are authentic gear. Even down to the badge. The uniforms are direct issue, not knock offs. Without them, I'd just be me.
CLARA: Which is fine.
MILES: So I'm getting the feeling.
CLARA: Believe me Miles. Just You is just fine. You out of uniform. Just Miles the man.
MILES: Yeah, but again, commonly misconceived as an over-aggressive guy. In a scene with a client, we go as far as we want. Not as far as I want. I'm as cocky and as verbal and as over-the-top as you want me to be. I respect every boundary as strongly as I push them (no I'm kidding) and the chemistry depends on that. If I cross a line, I run the risk of killing the vibe. Not my interest. A lot of guys are afraid to hire me because the ads are so strong...
CLARA: Or the reviews.
MILES: Yes, or the reviews on http://daddysreviews.com/venue/usa/kentucky/miles_louisville
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CLARA: (cracking up)
MILES: Sorry. I had to turn in my speech filter for my ManCard.
CLARA: And you don't have to have one.
MILES: I couldn't agree with you more. You mean a filter, right?
CLARA: But no, you were saying, people get scared by-
MILES: -by the nature of my ads, my reviews, etc. But if you check out Review #8 on Daddy's site, it recounts a scene that was purely the boyfriend experience. Was that a stretch for me? Maybe. Did I nail it? Read the review. What it comes down to is that all of these scenes are just fantasies-become-reality, encapsulated in an hour's time, highly controlled and subject to end when we choose; subject to be as strong in nature or as taboo or as vanilla as we choose. Are there limits to that? For me, yes. There are scenes I won't do. Anything that falls outside of my own guidelines; I obviously would never bottom or suck a dick. I think if I did, I'd lose the audience I currently have to massive coronarys.
CLARA: Or gain a whole other audience.
MILES: There is that (laughs). But that's neither here nor there. Within the guidelines of my range of services and scenes, I am open to getting as mild or as wild as my partner prefers.
CLARA: You have been called James Deen for the gays. Do you make that identification.
MILES: I am a skinny guy with a big dick. I guess so. But he's really beefed up. I'm working out now, too. I think it's a natural correlation to draw.
CLARA: Have you seen any of James Deen's films?
MILES: I like the intros. They're well done. I imagine if I were to make porno, I would have a hard time editing myself in scenes. You know, with all the verbal. I wonder if he has the same problem editing himself.
CLARA: Any other porn stars you associate yourself with?
MILES: Well, actually, I never said I associated myself with anyone else. I said I could understand someone else drawing that correlation based on very general similarities. We are both verbal, dominant men. He enjoys a lot of the same things from women as I do from women and men. But these fantasies have all been done. It could just as easily be said that I'm Jack Lawrence to the gays with the whole policeman deal. But policemen fantasies have been rampant in gay sex for about as long as straight-man fantasies have. If I'm James Dean to the gays it's because they love being with a naturally straight guy who understands the fascination gays have with us. Not only do I understand it, but I revel in being the center of that attention. That's where it should become clear that physical aggression isn't my tool for advancement or navigation in the bedroom. Mental exchanges made in the right chemistry meaning - both of us are on the exact same page - are where my strength lies. To be able to look a guy right in the eyes as he's blowing me and say everything I need to say with that look, knowing he's totally getting me and that he's completely into doing what he's doing...to hell with physical aggression. This sexy comprehension...that's rock and roll. That's porno. That's sex.
CLARA: It is, as you like to call it, Love.
MILES: It is love. Is it love between us yet? I mean, can I ask you a question now?